A Google software engineer recently sparked an online debate by sharing her advice on how job seekers should request referrals on LinkedIn. She revealed in a post on X (formerly Twitter) that she had received well-structured referral requests from two candidates and immediately referred them because they had asked in the “correct” manner. Her stance suggested that the way a candidate approaches a referral request significantly impacts the chances of getting one.
Guidelines for an Effective Referral Request
To help job seekers, the engineer even created a video outlining the key elements of a proper LinkedIn referral request. She emphasized including details such as the job ID, resume, coding profiles, CGPA, projects, and work experience. Additionally, she highlighted the importance of a proper greeting and ensuring that the job aligns with the applicant’s skills. She reinforced her point by quoting her mother: “Deserve and then desire.”
Her advice received mixed reactions online, with some agreeing that a well-crafted message enhances professionalism, while others criticized it as unnecessary formality. Some users argued that referrals should not require rigid etiquette, with one stating, “I hold the lowest barrier to refer. Ask me anytime, anyhow, and I will help you at the earliest. F**k formality and jargons.” Others echoed this sentiment, believing that referrals should be simple and informal.
Criticism of Ego and Unnecessary Formality
Many users found the emphasis on structure and politeness excessive, labeling it as ego-driven. One user remarked, “People get one achievement and suddenly it’s ego central. Just ask for a referral and get it done.” Another commented that they would willingly give referrals regardless of formality, questioning why such a simple request needed to be so structured. These critics felt that job seekers already face enough challenges and should not have to worry about phrasing their requests perfectly.
However, several users supported the engineer’s perspective, asserting that professionalism in communication is crucial. Some agreed that crafting a well-structured and respectful request demonstrates effort and seriousness. One user noted, “Good communication makes all the difference. People forget that others are busy and not always available.” Another added, “People need to start putting more effort into their referral requests.” This divide highlights an ongoing debate over whether job seekers should prioritize efficiency or formality when seeking professional favors.